PST #45: Lonely Around Other People

When my kids were growing up, I felt like an outsider around the other moms. From the outside, it looked like I fit in and had plenty of friends, but I always felt lonely when I was around them.

That loneliness I felt didn’t come from actually being alone. It came from the fact that I never felt like I could be myself when I was around people. I was the proverbial “lonely in a crowded room.”

As parents, we need to support each other. But in order to do that we need to be able to tell the truth of our experiences. Otherwise, any connection we make still feels hollow. This disconnect can actually make us feel lonelier.

In this episode, I will show you how your fear of judgment is keeping you from having the friendships you want (and need). I end with 3 great questions to help you recognize the costs of hiding your real self from others, let go of your self judgment, and make supportive friendships.

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What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • Why I felt lonely even around other people. [2:52]
  • Reasons why it can be so hard to get the support you need. [3:28]
  • The one thing you have to do to create supportive relationships. [4:08]
  • Why avoiding other people’s judgement doesn’t fully work. [6:40]
  • What you need to get comfortable sharing your real self. [7:30]
  • 3 questions that will help you become judgment proof. [8:32]